What's with a relationship?

What do you think are the most important things in a human relationship? May it between friends, son and father, mother and daughter, couples, husband and wife etc, what do you have in mind when it comes to relationship? Is it trust? Love? Skinship? Emotional attachment? Or maybe a combination of all of it? I don't know. I really don't know. It's complex and with what I've seen happening around me, this complex matter involves people around me directly and indirectly and many of the cases made me sad and unhappy.

People often said it is trust. Trust? Yes, it is important. But how much does it comprise in a relationship? Does it take like what...60% of the whole? 70%? Does trust alone enough to make sure a relationship will be successful? And for how long can you trust someone? Your whole life? What if the other person does not know that you trust him and ended up having doubt whether you trust him or not? Will he waver? Will you take blindly whatever she told you? I mean, will you believe your sister when she said that she went to her friend's house and comes back home at 1.30 a.m in the morning? Will you trust your friends and tell them about most of your problems saying that you are comfortable with them (coz they are good listeners..) and how can you make sure that they won't tell others? I don't know. I really don't know.

Or maybe it is love? Hmm...I'm not sure either. Now, if we say relationship comprises of 50% of love and 50% of trust, would you still be happy if the person you love and trust, does not pick up the phone, reply back your sms or even try to call you back? Will you be happy if your mother, who love and trust you, seldomly cooks for you and have a chance to say hi to you just before you go to sleep because she is so busy taking care of her works at the office? Will you be happy? Are you contented enough? Are you delightful when the sister you love and trust, never calls you although deep down inside you know she also loves and trusts you? What will you do to keep the relationship in a strong state and you don't end up hating the other person? I don't know. I really don't know.

Could it be...the constant thought of that particular person in your mind? Then, let's say you love that person, you trust her and you have her constantly in your mind, do you think the relationship will be good? What's the point of loving her, trusting her, having her constantly in your mind but you never tell the truth about yourself? Isn't that cheating? Isn't that being selfish? I mean, you think she's the one for you, but you never told her the significant truth like maybe you love her or maybe you have a problem right now that you cannot pick up calls and even reply an sms saying ok. WTH! Could this also be a reason? *sigh. I don't know. I really don't know.

The Qur'an said if you do anything because of Allah, you will find happiness not only in this world but also in the hereafter. But, how many of us do that? Do you think we'll face problems if everybody understand the concept? When I say everybody, it means everybody....(not just you and him, or you and your father, or you and your friend....it should be you, your mother, your father, your siblings or you, your friend A, your friend B and your friend C until your friend etc)

Relationship involves a lot of things. Yes, it's true. But putting too much efforts that tires you gives you nothing but a waste of time. Allah knows better what's best for you thus don't give up on Him and rely mostly on Him. You might see the pouring rain now but who knows the 7 colours rainbow that shows up later might be the beginning of your life. So, la tahzan. Don't be sad if your mother ignores you, or your friend is not close with you anymore or your maybe your sweetheart said that he needs to be alone and ignored you the whole month, happiness'll come later onwards. Ganbare!

And smile always like the cat