Sunday, November 01, 2009

Rejection

I'm missing someone right now. The fact that he does not know that I miss him, is basically the most hurtful one. Well...he's somewhere in foreign land and never knowing that I like him is the most interesting part. Well, I've been...you know...advising my friends on showing their true feelings towards the one that they like but in reality is, I'm also afraid. Not actually afraid of being laughed or anything that can be some sort of it...it's just that...well...I guess a simple NO is the answer then. huhuhuhu...yes..being REJECTED is what girls and guys feared the most when it comes to confession.

We are human afterall. If anybody said that she can bear with being rejected, she's totally bluffing. Don't believe her. Maybe as time goes by, she can learn to bear with it. But at that particular moment, deep inside, she'll be embarrased, afraid and again...embarrased. What's playing in her mind then are these sort of ideas; 'Will we be able to become friends after this?', Will I be able to literally start any conversation with him again...?' bla bla bla... and oh 'What if other people know that I am being rejected?' <---[totally the scariest part] tsk...tsk...tsk...pity! But..that's what life is.

Let me tell you my opinion on rejection. This does not represent all okay...it's just me and me only:

1. Rejection level 1: [When You Say Nothing At All]
The smoothest rejection yet the most hated one. How can you recognize it? When he said....nothing. You confessed. You tell him how you feel. But the reply is...zero. It's like suddenly his mouth is zipped and he is mute. It's like your words are blown by the wind. huhuhuhuhu..
What do you have to do? Slowly erase him from your heart and find another guy. (n_n)v

2. Rejection level 2: [Words Don't Come Easily]
The double face rejection. For me, when a guy said 'We should stay as friends for the time being', actually he wants to say:
i. 'I have a lot of commitment for the time being, I don't want to have any serious relationship yet.'
ii. 'I don't want to be your boyfriend, but I want to be your friend.'
Either or, you choose.

3. Rejection level 3: [The Heartbreaker Kid]
The TOTAL rejection. He avoids your call. He doesn't want to know you anymore. No more sweet calls. No more good night messages. No more YOU in HIS world...if I can put it that way. If this happens, stay away from this parasite. He's nothing but a jerk! Ignore him totally. Find some other nice guys will you?

These are just what I think, a rejection will be. It's based on friends' experience and observation. I've been rejected once but that was years ago. At that time, I was just trying to win him back. But he said, 'We should stay as friends. Kalau ada jodoh, adalah,' which literally means I don't want to be your boyfriend anymore but I want to be your friend. Well, what's so bad about being friends with your exs? No harm will do, right? Let bygones be bygones. He's happy with his life right now and he's even getting married. I'm happy for him. Although, we are no closer than before, but that is what you need to sacrifice. Live happily okay!

13 comments:

moon said...

getting married? sp tu rose? bf kat uia??? tp suke la ngn entry ni. cume ade byk part ta setuju. hehehe tp nnt kte bg komen sok coz kte tengah study ni. hahahahaha

roslini ashari said...

hahaha...okay. takper. take your time. =)

FaZiLa said...

sblm tu, welcome rose!da lama mu tak update.huh..

menarek tjuk ni.sngt mendalam :p

sngt pedih sbnrnya bila di rejek. tp kita kena terima hakikat bhwa bkn sume yg kita nk, kita dapat.dan oleh kerana itu, kita prlu berusaha lg.tu pon kalo maseh berani dan maseh kuat semangat.

rejection bnyk jnis gk kan mcm mu gtau la.org bleh rejek kita n kita pn leh rejek org.tp kna rejek secara berhemahlah :) tp bila part yg laki tu da mmg JERK, ko mmg kna rejek trus dia dr idop ko.sngt sia2 idop bila mnyimpan prasaan kt org camtu.jadikanla ia satu pngajaran dan teladan for next coming 'rejection' or 'acceptance'..keh keh keh..

moon said...

mc rose, dlm idup ini perlu ada confession. tp perlu diingat, lau kte suke some1, kte jus confess, but tidakla mengharap utk menjadi special girlpren org tu ke ape kan. kwn2 jela. ta salah pong gtau yg kte minat org tu. kalo org tu ta minat kte na wat cemane. huhu mane leh pakse2. tp bukankah sronok once kte da bgtau someone yg kte minat ngn org tu, KITA ORG2 YG CONFESS ni akan jadi sum1 yg agak terkesan dalam hidup diorg. maksudnya, diorg mungkin akan lebih mengingati kita berbanding kwn2 dorg yg dorg yg ta rapat. contohnya, dulu time skolah kte ade minat ngn junior2. pas tu kte kan ganas cket ngn kwn2 kte, siap cubit2 lg junior ktorg tu. hahaha tp pas skola lost contact la. skali tgk skang, dorg respect n stil mau kwn ngn kta, malah dorg yg sumtimes stat dulu conversation. kenapa? sbb mabe dulu kan suke kacau2 gtu, tp da besar2 ni da tade perasaan tu, tp kta n dorg da jd kwn yg baik. malah ntah cemane kte jd lebih rapat ngn dorg compare ngn kwn2 kte lain. heee tataula rose paham ke ta ape yg kte cube sampaikan. cam pening je ayat ni

fatimah said...

Yup. Words don't come easily. Sama gak utk org yg nak men'confess'nye.

Apepun kene igt tuhan. Suka dan benci kene cuba utk berpada2. (igtkan diri sniri gak ni). Thanks for being around :)

moon said...

hi fadh. ape kabar? mcmane kehidupan di sana?

roslini ashari said...

mclaa:yes...JERKS should be rejected! go Mclaa!

muni: btol yang muni cakap tu. I never said that you cannot confess. may be I can put the headings to 'what would the answer be if you confess to sum1 and what would the posssible meaning be.'
confessions are important when you really like sum1. and for sure, he will remember you as the girl who confessed to him. but not many of us have that courages to said those words and the worst case scenario could be that he thinks you're joking...hahahaha..but well, that is what life is then. thanx for sharing muni!

fatimah: hehehe...betol...betol. tuhan dulu, baru benda lain.

moon said...

betol ape rose ckp. musti org tu ingat kte joke je. ni refer kepada confession yg kite buat baru2 ini. hehe psl org yg kte cite kat rose tu. emmmm tp kalo lepas confess (dlm keadaan kurang serius), of kosla kite akan berpelakuan dan member rieaksi yg menunjukkan kte suke org tu. dan arap2la org tu paham dengan sendirinya. kalo ta paham jugak, kene masuk KELAS CINTA!!! NI HEHEHE

fatimah said...

Baik muni. London is quite different. But life goes on. How bout you?

moon said...

kte ok2 je kat cni. ta sbr na blk uma ni. minggu depan da stat cuti da sebulan. waaa ta sbr na cuti

fatimah said...

oh best2 cuti. lambat lagi kitorg nak cuti kat sini. tunggu christmas :)

:: !zyan :: said...

hmmm...mclaa...mc rose...dlm boat yg same eh. Moon pun same ke?

roslini ashari said...

tak. sajer jer buat post ni. nak kongsi pendapat.